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Food for Thought #13 - The rings that bind us. What is a relationship?

Food for Thought #13 - The rings that bind us. What is a relationship?

January 17, 2020

So I just finished watching Marriage Story (https://www.netflix.com/title/80223779) on Netflix. It’s a great take on the break down of marriage and the flow on effects. The ways in which a divorce will typically unfold. The impact to your children. The emotions from the beginning, during the fall out and post divorce. It is incredibly made and resonates so close to my heart. It spoke the words I did not say to my ex wife and it absolutely had my heart when it comes to the father in the breakdown of family.

I have been on a relationships kick of recent however. Marriage Story was just another perspective to add to the heap. Just prior to this, I was watching the Kevin Hart doco, Dont F**k this Up (https://www.netflix.com/title/81010817). In this he talks about relationships with his father and the management of a bond with another person. That it is something you have to work on. That you can have relationships, but the work really happens when you create that bond and do the maintenance/work to keep it. I myself lack a bond with my parents. Or so I think. I love them. I think of them. But I do very little to keep in contact. To maintain ties with them. So much so that I live on the other side of the planet from them. I have the excuse of timezones and expensive flights and commitments which take my time up. Is this a good thing? A bad thing? I am not sure. The bad side of it is represented in my insecurities with my own children. That they don’t have a real relationship with me. Cause I am Disneyland dad and not the full time parent.

Ironically I do not call them all the time. I do when I want to talk to them, but it is not all the time. But I work with them as much as I can. I get deep with them. I talk to them on both my and their level and I hide very little from them. So much so that I had a moment where I was nervous to talk to my eldest son about the concept of our relationship and our bond. We were both watching the Kevin Hart thing together and it sort of got me thinking and I wanted to ask him what he thought of our relationship. So one night when I was driving him home from water polo I built up the courage to ask him. I wasn’t sure what to expect but I was happy none the less. Primarily because my son felt he could speak to me and tell me his truth.

So what is a bond? Is it the definition of a long lasting relationship? I think it is. I am quite selective with those who I choose to focus on. Those who get time from me. There is a reciprocation that exists between myself and the human in my sights. I invest and seek to know that person at a deeper level. I go beyond them and into what they are and ask them the hard questions. I look to share and understand their interests. Even if it is simply give them shit about it. But it’s the work that matters. Something we all have to stop and do.

So get out there humans. Look at the people close to you. Dig deep into that relationship and work on those bonds. Because at the end of the day, it’s a fundamental part about our makeup to have relationships and bonds with others so we can share and love and feel loved.

Thanks everyone for listening! I am keen to get questions from you so that I can adjust and do more with the show. So you can reach out to me via email ([email protected]) Instagram (@unplug_your_self) or twitter (@unplugyour_self). I’d really like to hear what you think, topics you want covered and if that’s not your bag, just some general feedback. Also make sure you go to iTunes and give the show some stars and feedback. It all helps.

Just remember, by leveraging your self awareness, managing your mindset, having mindfulness and building your emotional intelligence you can unlock your negativity and be the person you want to be!

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Food for Thought #12 - Filter your water! You can’t just drink from the stream.

Food for Thought #12 - Filter your water! You can’t just drink from the stream.

January 13, 2020

When I was a kid water wasn’t such a big deal. You drank out of the tap. Any tap for that matter. We lived in the Rocky Mountains! Essentially the place that people went to get that glacial bottled water. Well in my mind that was the case because I tasted that Evian water and I thought the water out of the sink was nicer. But even still I was warned to not drink water from the streams or rivers. That that water was off limits due to the potential of getting Giardia.

However, one day, when it was especially hot and my friends I were riding our bikes on the bike path between towns I was super thirsty. We stopped at the the stream we were occasionally riding over and I dared to drink that water. Full well knowing that I could get sick. There was a conversation between us as too if it would make me sick. It was the general consensus that a little bit would be fine. So I drank some. Now this does not have the dire ending I am leading to. I was fine, but I was worried for some time after. I also learned a valuable lesson. Sometimes, you are going to make mistakes. In this instance I didn’t fill up my water bottle before I left. To this day, I am well prepared to be hydrated in any instance.

But the bigger lesson is that even though I didn’t get sick from doing something that I knew was not safe, I did it anyway and in doing this I potentially opened a door in my mind to make it ok to do this again. Now I am wired to shut these doors. But as an analogy, this represents a view of the world we live in today. The internet is very much a body of water and not all of it is safe to drink. Yet we do. Over and over again. The horrible part about all of this, is there are no physical side effects. No health threats as such. However your mind can be incredibly poisoned.

Thanks everyone for listening! I am keen to get questions from you so that I can adjust and do more with the show. So you can reach out to me via email ([email protected]) Instagram (@unplug_your_self) or twitter (@unplugyour_self). I’d really like to hear what you think, topics you want covered and if that’s not your bag, just some general feedback. Also make sure you go to iTunes and give the show some stars and feedback. It all helps.

Just remember, by leveraging your self awareness, managing your mindset, having mindfulness and building your emotional intelligence you can unlock your negativity and be the person you want to be!

Food for Thought #11 - Your Life is just a Blue pill or Red pill. Your Perspective is a choice.

Food for Thought #11 - Your Life is just a Blue pill or Red pill. Your Perspective is a choice.

December 31, 2019

“Soda becomes vodka. Bikes become cars. Kisses turn into sex. Remember when Dad’s shoulders were the highest place on earth and mum was your hero? Race issues were about who ran the fastest, war was only a card game. The most pain you felt was when you skinned your knees, and goodbyes only meant until tomorrow? And we couldn’t wait to grow up” It’s not mine, but I love it.

Thanks everyone for listening! I am keen to get questions from you so that I can adjust and do more with the show. So you can reach out to me via email ([email protected]) Instagram (@unplug_your_self) or twitter (@unplugyour_self). I’d really like to hear what you think, topics you want covered and if that’s not your bag, just some general feedback. Also make sure you go to iTunes and give the show some stars and feedback. It all helps.

Just remember, by leveraging your self awareness, managing your mindset, having mindfulness and building your emotional intelligence you can unlock your negativity and be the person you want to be!

Food for Thought #10 - Are you getting dumber? Train your muscle!

Food for Thought #10 - Are you getting dumber? Train your muscle!

December 23, 2019

I wonder how often our brains are neglected. How often we now put our mental capacity in a wheelchair and just let someone else push it around. I am not sure if this just how I am wired, or how I have told this story to myself, but it seems quite obvious to me that the invention of the internet and all this access has turned us into idiots. That we no longer seek to obtain knowledge in a way that is good for our brains, but good for our egos.

Thanks everyone for listening! I am keen to get questions from you so that I can adjust and do more with the show. So you can reach out to me via email ([email protected]) Instagram (@unplug_your_self) or twitter (@unplugyour_self). I’d really like to hear what you think, topics you want covered and if that’s not your bag, just some general feedback. Also make sure you go to iTunes and give the show some stars and feedback. It all helps.

Just remember, by leveraging your self awareness, managing your mindset, having mindfulness and building your emotional intelligence you can unlock your negativity and be the person you want to be!

#SelfTalk #SelfAwareness #Mindfulness #Mindset #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfHelp #MentalHealth

Food for Thought #9 - Blind Narcissism. Is it too late?

Food for Thought #9 - Blind Narcissism. Is it too late?

December 9, 2019

I have found myself lost in a world where I do not understand how others operate. It was not until recently that I considered a few things and also caught an interview with Edward Norton on the WTF podcast about our society slipping into a world of uncontrolled narcissism that I got some clarity on the matter. Specifically when you combine the worlds greatest amplifier, social media and the view that everyone seems to be only thinking of themselves these days. So is it you? Is it me? Is it too late? Time to think about it.

http://www.wtfpod.com/podcast/episode-1066-edward-norton

Thanks everyone for listening! I am keen to get questions from you so that I can adjust and do more with the show. So you can reach out to me via email ([email protected]) Instagram (@unplug_your_self) or twitter (@unplugyour_self). I’d really like to hear what you think, topics you want covered and if that’s not your bag, just some general feedback. Also make sure you go to iTunes and give the show some stars and feedback. It all helps.

Just remember, by leveraging your self awareness, managing your mindset, having mindfulness and building your emotional intelligence you can unlock your negativity and be the person you want to be!

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Ep13  - Sometimes life throws you lemons. You have to choose to make lemonade.

Ep13 - Sometimes life throws you lemons. You have to choose to make lemonade.

December 2, 2019

Well it took a bit, but I am back at it. This week we get to cover off some news I have with respect to my life and my wife. Life doesn’t always go as planned and in the last month Hali and I have been through some tougher times. Nothing we can’t handle, but tough none the less. Mainly for my wife, as I am more a passenger here as she navigates a miscarriage. But it isn’t meant to be a sad story! We see the positives and had a focus on moving through it. I hope you enjoy this one.

Thanks everyone for listening! I am keen to get questions from you so that I can adjust and do more with the show. So you can reach out to me via email ([email protected]) Instagram (@unplug_your_self) or twitter (@unplugyour_self). I’d really like to hear what you think, topics you want covered and if that’s not your bag, just some general feedback. Also make sure you go to iTunes and give the show some stars and feedback. It all helps.

Just remember, by leveraging your self awareness, managing your mindset, having mindfulness and building your emotional intelligence you can unlock your negativity and be the person you want to be!

Food for Thought #8 - Comfort Zones. Time to step it up.

Food for Thought #8 - Comfort Zones. Time to step it up.

November 28, 2019

I often wonder if I am trapped on a world that is locked up. A world that is stuck in one gear. But then I remind myself that I am the one who is driving the car and I am the one picking the route I am on. There is no need to be comfortable here. I need to find the new road. The new experience. The thing that makes me uncomfortable and really have a crack at it. In this episode of Food for Thought I share my views on why I challenge myself and push myself to live outside my comfort zone as much as possible.

Thanks everyone for listening! I am keen to get questions from you so that I can adjust and do more with the show. So you can reach out to me via email ([email protected]) Instagram (@unplug_your_self) or twitter (@unplugyour_self). I’d really like to hear what you think, topics you want covered and if that’s not your bag, just some general feedback. Also make sure you go to iTunes and give the show some stars and feedback. It all helps.

Just remember, by leveraging your self awareness, managing your mindset, having mindfulness and building your emotional intelligence you can unlock your negativity and be the person you want to be!

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Food for Thought #7 - Ask yourself, Why?

Food for Thought #7 - Ask yourself, Why?

November 22, 2019

I have been doing a lot of work on me recently. This has all come in the form of asking myself one question. Why?? Why do I do what I do. I am not talking the go to the store and but food kind of why. I am talking that weird autopilot kind. So in this food 4 thought I dig into what I’ve been up to and how I have been working through it all.

Links: The Dream Podcast - https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/stitcher/the-dream#/ The Game Changers - https://www.netflix.com/title/81157840

Thanks everyone for listening! I am keen to get questions from you so that I can adjust and do more with the show. So you can reach out to me via email ([email protected]) Instagram (@unplug_your_self) or twitter (@unplugyour_self). I’d really like to hear what you think, topics you want covered and if that’s not your bag, just some general feedback. Also make sure you go to iTunes and give the show some stars and feedback. It all helps.

Just remember, by leveraging your self awareness, managing your mindset, having mindfulness and building your emotional intelligence you can unlock your negativity and be the person you want to be!

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Ep12 - Push starting the car through life when the special stick doesn’t work!

Ep12 - Push starting the car through life when the special stick doesn’t work!

November 10, 2019

In life you never know the journey you will have. For some it’s much the same as many. Born into a family, growing up on the same street, going to school, getting a job and becoming an adult. But for some it’s very different. For Gigi Tsang life was a combination of both. From working in the family restaurant to becoming a teacher to realising that that was not her path. Gigi is not short of dong what she thinks is right to find what she wants in life and working hard to achieve it.

Thanks everyone for listening! I am keen to get questions from you so that I can adjust and do more with the show. So you can reach out to me via email ([email protected]) Instagram (@unplug_your_self) or twitter (@unplugyour_self). I’d really like to hear what you think, topics you want covered and if that’s not your bag, just some general feedback. Also make sure you go to iTunes and give the show some stars and feedback. It all helps.

Just remember, by leveraging your self awareness, managing your mindset, having mindfulness and building your emotional intelligence you can unlock your negativity and be the person you want to be!

Food for Thought #6 - Disappointment

Food for Thought #6 - Disappointment

November 8, 2019

We all have disappointments in our lives. We all have to deal with the ups and downs. But do you look to learn from your disappointments? Can you find the positive in what you have just gone through? Some sort of lessons to be learned? Are you available to others who were also part of the disappointment? Maybe it’s time to think about how you handle yourself through disappointment and work to level up!

Thanks everyone for listening! I am keen to get questions from you so that I can adjust and do more with the show. So you can reach out to me via email ([email protected]) Instagram (@unplug_your_self) or twitter (@unplugyour_self). I’d really like to hear what you think, topics you want covered and if that’s not your bag, just some general feedback. Also make sure you go to iTunes and give the show some stars and feedback. It all helps.

Just remember, by leveraging your self awareness, managing your mindset, having mindfulness and building your emotional intelligence you can unlock your negativity and be the person you want to be!